When you decided to step up and be the father you were created to be you introduced the need faith into your life.
You introduce the need to be able to see past the current situation with hope that the future holds much better.
One of a father’s most critical roles is to deposit good teaching in their children so that they will be positive contributors to society when they reach adulthood.
It is a father’s honor to see his children take what he has given them and do something great with it.
A child with good character will please any father any day.
Anything less than that can be very frustrating at times. It can be frustrating to take the time and teach your child life lessons only to see them totally disregard it and do what they want.
It can be extremely frustrating when you open the lines of communication so that you can help them with tough decisions, only to see them continue to hide things and lie about things that aren’t that big of a deal at all.
But to let your frustration last more than a moment would not be operating in faith.
“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it” ~ Proverbs 22:6 KJV
You have to trust your fatherhood and have faith in it. Know that you are doing a good work in your children that will reflect in their lives as adults. The seeds you are planting takes the rainy days of life’s experience to take root and grow.
At times when you feel like your children just don’t get it (and won’t get it) remember these few pointers:
- What you do will not always see the result immediately. Believe that you are still raising them right.
- You can’t control or know their every action. Even though they know better they still need to explore for themselves.
- You can’t protect them from everything. Some pain is necessary in order for them to see the value in what you have taught them.
- They will do (and say) some of the most stupid things you could ever think of. It doesn’t discredit your teachings, it’s just them being kids.
- They will get it. As long as you stay patient and consistent your teaching will produce fruit.
- Keep loving on them. This is so important. Never let their actions or lack of obedience disqualify them from receiving the love they need from their Dad.
- Speak life into them. You may not believe it yourself, but speak encouraging words until you both do. The impact of affirming words of a father is immeasurable.
All of which require faith to effectively execute them.
When I look back at my upbringing and all the stupid things I did, tried, got caught with, and got a way with; I can’t help but wonder that my father probably felt the same feelings I’m feeling now with my kids. And somehow I still turned out just fine.
I think about God and how many times I let him down as a grown man. He understands and keeps loving me and guiding me. No matter how bad I get He continues to be willing to show me the way.
That is what a call to fatherhood is all about. Being able to love and believe in your children regardless of their current disobedience or errant behavior. You must exercise faith otherwise you may make the mistake (or allow others) of casting a permanent judgement on your child in a temporary situation.
Let that never be!
To think that your child is damaged goods or just won’t get it right is to give life to the thought that you don’t know what you’re doing. That all your effort was for naught. That being a father just wasn’t enough, or you simply weren’t good enough as a father.
Don’t lie to yourself. Encourage yourself and maintain faith in your fatherhood. In time you will start seeing small changes. You will hear them talking to their friends saying things to their friends that you have said to them in private.
As they get older they will start taking interest in you more. How you dress, how you act around your friends, how you treat their mother, how hard you work daily. These are all seeds that life will water (and try to uproot). Just keep believing and dropping seeds to ensure that in due time something will take root and produce fruit.
Sometimes you just have to calm down and check your expectations. It’s easy to get caught up expecting your kids to get everything you teach them. They won’t. But trust and believe at some point they will.
What’s your take on the importance of faith in fatherhood? Do you agree? I’d love to engage more on the topic in the comment area below.