I’m A Quitter!

Sometimes you  just have to face reality. I know I did.

I realized I’m a quitter.

As hard a worker as I am, I’m a quitter. As motivated, inspirational, skilled, and driven as I have learned to be, I’m still a quitter. From as far back as I can remember I have a history of quitting.

Now before you go and judge me, take some time to actually read what I mean by being a quitter. You may be surprised what we share in common.

The word “quit” had been given a negative connotation in our society. Statements like “Don’t be a quitter” or “They just gave up and quit”; are often said and taught to give us a strictly negative view of quitting.

In fact, the second we hear the word we automatically prepare to literally “smh (shaking my head)”. Well quitting isn’t necessarily always a bad thing, in fact, more people need to quit more often!

From dead end jobs and broken relationships, to just flat out repeating things in our life that do not bear fruit. Some stuff we just need to quit doing. Especially if they are not getting us any closer to our desired goal(s) in life. The continual practice of futility is far more devastating to your future than the risk of being labeled a quitter.

“The continual practice of futility is far more devastating to your future than the risk of being labeled a quitter.”

In the correct arena, under the right circumstances quitting can actually show tremendous courage and strength instead of absolute weakness. I’d go a step further to claim that not ever quitting shows a lack of self esteem and vision in your life.

I’ve found that when you are confident in who you are and where you are going, there is nothing that will prevent you from achieving your goal. Not even quitting.

When you have vision, you’re not imprisoned by what other people may say about you leaving a business venture gone sour. You don’t mind the pain that comes from leaving a relationship that was parasitic and unbalanced. You have the confidence to leave a life of comfort and pursue your dream life.

Having a clear vision of where you want to go frees you from the negative misunderstanding of quitting, and provides you the opportunity to stay on a path that offers real promise. However, with no vision or understanding of self you will feel the need to “stay loyal” to even the most dead situations and relationships.

To help you understand exactly what I’m saying I’ve compiled a list of the things I’ve quit in my life:

  1. I quit the dream job of my youth (drawing live caricatures at the local theme park)
  2. I quit going out to  nightclubs and house parties
  3. I quit a relationship with my college sweetheart (twice) that was not healthy
  4. I quit using women for my own selfish gain
  5. I quit making excuses for why I’m not where I want to be
  6. I quit relying on a single corporate job to finance my future dreams and present desires

BUT, here’s what I gained by quitting those same situations that were not producing fruit:

  1. I was offered another job (drawing caricatures) making practically 10 times more and working less than half the hours
  2. I started reading and studying more. Ultimately adding more value to myself. I stayed away from a couple stray bullets too.
  3. I gained a wonderful wife 2 years later. The break up gave us the necessary time apart to get ourselves together
  4. Became a mentor and advocate for both young men and women to preserve themselves for marriage
  5. I took control of my life and created the path for the future I desired
  6. I started my own business and have never looked back!

Look at all the great things that were birthed out of quitting when I created a vision for where I wanted to go in life. The bible gives a great example of what happens without vision in Proverbs 29:18 (KJV):

“Where there is no vision, the people perish”

So I  ask you, what is the vision for your life?

What will you quit?

What are you currently doing that is not getting you any closer to where you want to end up? In order to move to a higher level in life, there are going to be some things (and people) you are going to have to change and/or let go. Will you do it? Is it worth it? Have you calculated the cost?

I’d love to hear some of the things you’ve quit in your life that have allowed you to receive greater blessings. Lets talk about it in the comments below…